Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Enjoy These Years

Before this pic was taken, two senior couples were sitting behind the kids. As they were leaving, one of the gentlemen came over to Terry, put his hand on Terry's shoulder and said, "You have a beautiful family. Enjoy these years, they go by quick". 

 Pic taken a few weeks ago

The words he spoke made me tear up. He is right. How many times do I rush bedtime? Or look at the clock to see when Terry will be home from work? I really need to enjoy these times with my children. They are only little once.

We were having breakfast at the Irving Big Stop. It was our first time at a sit down restaurant with E. He did pretty good. After breakfast we went for a random drive and drove through communities we haven't been to before.  

The kids did pretty good up to a certain point and then the whining started.  We changed the topic to making videos. The kids love watching videos of kids opening kinder eggs and toys. We talked about making our own video, the kids love that idea. J really wants to put it on youtube.  We did make a few videos, but haven't put them on youtube yet. Maybe I'll post them here.


The store we stopped at to stretch our legs and get a snack.

Overall it was a great Saturday and I am looking forward to summer adventures.

Sunday, May 24, 2015

Coffee

I spilled coffee on my keyboard. For now using the on screen keyboard.

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Desires of my Heart

For a while now I have been thinking of my family and putting my family ahead of myself.  It started a few months back when I told my friends no, I can't keep going on coffee dates several times a week.  E was just a few months old. I wasn't getting much sleep during the night. I was in a zombie state most of the day. Besides the baby I have a preschooler who doesn't nap and goes to preschool two mornings a week(I drive her there and pick her up) and I have a school age boy (I picked him up after school) who needs help getting ready in the mornings.  Our home was lacking - me. The laundry was out of control, beds never made, tornadoes in the kids bedroom, dishes everywhere in the kitchen (no dishwasher) and a bit of everything in the living room.

It could be said that it was because I have a new born.  And that is true. Our place (all of us) was getting use to a new born in the home.  But I started feeling I was spending too much time out of the home. If for example Ri was in preschool, I would hang out with a friend. Then after preschool it was suggested we have a play date with our girls. Then it would be time to go get J from school. I would usually be rushed and after school we would enter our disaster home and not only would I be tired from being up several times a night, I would feel overwhelmed because of the condition of our home.

God had started working on my heart, he gave me the courage to say no. No, I am sorry I can't have a play date today.  No, I can't go for coffee.  I know I need time for me. But the time I was spending at that particular time, made me feel rushed, overwhelmed and anxious. If it is time for me, I should be feeling joy and happiness, not worrying about things at home. At this time I think I have a better balance.  One preschool morning I go to my Women's Bible Group.  The other morning it is for me. In the evenings when the kids are in bed, I walk with a friend.  I feel less rushed and actually enjoy the time when I am away from the home.

About a month a go Terry and I had a talk about or children. We talked about our time spent with the kids. I had come from Mom's Group and one of the moms speaking that day talked about how quantity time with kids is more important than quality time with kids. She said out of the quantity time spent with our children the quality time will come. One of the things we decided is that we won't be on our phones when we are with the kids. 

A few weeks ago I deactivated my facebook account. I was spending too time just looking at what other people were doing. My five minutes would turn into twenty.  I will probably go back.  But for right now I am facebook free.

The desires God has been putting in my heart lately is focus for my marriage, my kids and my home. They are strong desires. A while ago I bought Women Living Well: Find Your Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids, and Your Home by Courtney Joseph, I read pages but I haven't read the book. This morning after reading a passage in my Bible (I'm reading 1 Chronicles) I read the first chapter in the book.  It said a lot of things I needed to hear. 

All a man's ways seem right to him, but the Lord weighs the heart. 
Proverbs 21:2

Monday, May 11, 2015

I left facebook

I disabled my facebook account about two weeks ago.  I am not saying I am not going back, when leaving I checked the 'temporary' box, but for right now I am not logging on.

When I first left facebook, I put up a brief post saying that I was leaving facebook for a few weeks for a break.  I didn't keep it up long and disabled my account.  I had a few people that got a hold of me out side of facebook and asked "What's wrong?"  There was nothing wrong.  I just want a break. It is funny that a first response to me leaving facebook is that there must be something terrible going on in my life, something that I don't want to share or something I don't want to talk about.

The truth? I was just spending too much time on there.  I would say 'just going to check facebook for a minute' and my minute would turn in to ten - fifteen minutes.  Do I really need to be checking facebook three of four times a day? Fifteen - Twenty minutes at a time? Checking to see if someone post something new?  Which sounds so funny because I am still on twitter and instagram and I read blogs. But they don't seem to have the same hold as facebook does. The time I spend on the other social media doesn't compare to the time I spent on facebook.  Maybe because there is so much on facebook?

It seems everything is linked to facebook, the mom's group I attend, my Bible study group, weight loss group and even J's first grade class has a group for update for parents. If you want to know what is going on in the groups you attend, the community or child related activities, it's on facebook.  And if you are not on facebook, you are not in the 'know'.  

And then, there is the "I have family from away and they like seeing pictures and updates of the family."  Which is true, I have family in Newfoundland, Ontario and Alberta. I could always send them an email with updates and pictures. The other week, my friend's phone wasn't working, so I sent her a message through gtalk.  She told me she didn't even know gmail offered gtalk. There were a lot of ways to communicate before facebook, but it seems like facebook is the number one choice right now.

 Do I miss facebook?  No.  I don't miss facebook.  I would love to stay facebook free.

But with everything being linked to facebook, I will probably be back.  Right now, though, I will keep my account disabled.


Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Not a Typical Birthday

Yesterday was Terry's birthday.  It started with me taking Ea to the doctor's walk in clinic.  It looked like he had pink eye.  Along with pink eye, Ea had a fever and was very congested.  His little nose was just running. 

As we pull in the drive way back home, Terry was getting out of his vechicle with Ri.  They had just dropped J off at school.  We said our good byes, Terry went to work and we went in the house to start our day.  Our day consisted of doing laundry.  Ri and I hung our clothes out side to dry.  She loves to help.

After school, the kids (E slept) worked on Terry's cake.  It was the same idea as a similar birthday, chocolate cake with ice cream, but this year we had a cookie cake pan. It is a very simple gluten free recipe made with simple ingredients like coco, rice flour.  I'll post the recipe another day.

The cake pan we found at Atlantic Super Store

 The kids helping with the cake

The finished cake with ice cream and some frosting.

Nanny came over for supper.  We had lasagne. During supper Ea woke up from his nap.  The doctor had given me a prescription for today just in case things Ea didn't approve over night.  We decided it would be best to have the medicine on hand. So I went to Sobeys.  Terry and Nanny put the kids to bed.  The Pharmacy was running behind, I waited over an hour.

By the time I got home, it was nine.  Just enough time to cuddle with Ea before he went to sleep, watch a half hour show with Terry before sleepy land.  It wasn't a typical birthday, but what is a typical birthday for a parent with three little ones?


Ea sleeping this morning

This weekend we are going out to eat for Terry's birthday, Nanny's retirement and Mother's Day. Ri picked the place, a Chinese Buffet. I am hoping everyone will be feeling better.

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Terry's Birthday

Today is Terry's Birthday!

Happy Birthday Sweetheart!

The Cake the kids made him last year.
It is a jeep with different coloured frosting and lots of sprinkles.